THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES

 

Quality Time

People whose love language is quality time thrive on time together. Scheduling special time together, like dates, going on a walk, or other activities that create memories, is especially meaningful for them. Quality Time individuals are hurt when time with them is not a priority.

What to avoid
Those with the language of quality time detest last minute cancellations, not being fully present when together, distractions that prevent quality, alone time together, or a partner who doesn’t make time to date or to be together.


Gift ideas for Quality Time 

  • Go on a special Valentine’s Day walk with a surprise gift at the end.
  • Schedule an outing to a special show or musical they’ve been wanting to see.
  • Provide all the ingredients and recipes to enjoy cooking a special dinner together (with no distractions). Take an art, photography, cooking, or social dance class together.

Words of Affirmation

Those whose love language is words of affirmation thrive on intentional, caring words. These people need to hear “I love you” and also the reason why. Crafting caring, intentional words that compliment their strengths and recognize their accomplishments is very fulfilling.

What to Avoid
Words of affirmation individuals are hurt when they receive no acknowledgement or gratitude for their efforts. Avoid criticism that does not have a purpose to build, lack of communication, harsh words, yelling, and ingratitude


Gift Ideas for Words of Affirmation

  • Write a special letter that clearly and thoughtfully expresses your love for them. 
  • Create a special poem or song. 
  • Re-read your original vows. Write new vows based on your growth. 
  • Include a handwritten card in any gift. 
  • Tell them why you love them. Daily.

Receiving Gifts

Those whose love language is receiving gifts appreciate the time and effort involved in giving a gift. It’s the thought behind the gift that is meaningful. Gifts need not always be tangible or expensive. The best gifts are those that take time and thought.

What to Avoid
Gift love language individuals also tend to show others they care by giving gifts. Therefore, it feels especially hurtful when a partner forgets or neglects a holiday where gift giving is traditional. Don’t miss a birthday, Valentine’s Day, Mother’s/Father’s day or any other occasion that is traditional in their culture or religion. 


Gift Ideas for Receiving Gifts

  • Make a gift out of a photo from a trip or special moment. 
  • Make a custom gift with a special phrase or affirmation that is important to the individual. 
  • Create a special treat that is close to their heart or cook a special meal that is meaningful to them.

Physical Touch

Those whose love language is physical touch have a need for closeness and connection. This can include, but is not limited to, sexual intimacy. They view touch as a sign of love, intimacy, and respect. They love cuddling, holding hands, and in non-romantic relationships, they value physical presence, accessibility, a reassuring handshake, or a pat on the back.

What to Avoid
Avoid neglect, isolation, harsh contact, lack of intimacy as a priority, and abuse of any kind.


Gift Ideas for Physical Touch

  • Think of gifts that convey closeness, such as a special blanket for cuddling together during home movies. 
  • A new massage oil that includes your massage or a foot scrub with a foot rub. 
  • In romantic situations, there’s nothing better than a new outfit or getaway that precedes intimacy. 

Acts of Service

Kind and thoughtful deeds often speak louder than words. Those whose love language is acts of service view actions as the ultimate expression of showing love. These people appreciate acts of kindness that help to take stress away from their lives or show kindness and thoughtfulness. Anything from daily tasks, like folding a load of laundry or plugging in their phone, to building their dream with them will show them how much you care.

What to Avoid
Avoid needlessly creating more work or stress in their lives. Other pet peeves of this type of person include not following through on projects, not pitching in, and laziness.


Gift ideas for Acts of Service

  • Create or build something that has been on their wish list. 
  • Surprise them by detailing their car. 
  • Fix or replace an item that has been troublesome. 
  • Book a pre-paid visit to a salon or spa for self-care. 
  • Complete a project that has been on the sidelines.

Mood Enhancing Diffuser Blends

Set the lights on low and choose your favourite diffuser blend!
Note:  All oils suggested below are Young Living Essential Oils.  It’s important not to diffuse store bought oils – they’re filled with toxic chemicals and can do harm to your body.  I trust Young Living essential oils because of their Seed to Seal promise.

 

Yin and Yang*

3 drops Sandalwood
3 drops Lavender
2 drops Ylang Ylang

* Recipe courtesy Lucy Libido says ... There's an Oil for THAT available on Amazon

Romantic Bliss*

3 drops Jasmine
2 drops Orange
2 drops Clary Sage
1 drop Joy

* Recipe courtesy Lucy Libido says ... There's an Oil for THAT available on Amazon

Passion

3 drops Patchouli
3 drops Lavender
3 drops Orange

Inner Thigh Potions*

For both him and her (Make ahead and store in a 5 ml bottle.  Keep in the bedroom!!)
Note:  All oils suggested below are Young Living Essential Oils.  It’s important not to use store bought oils – they’re filled with toxic chemicals and can do harm to your body.  I trust Young Living essential oils because of their Seed to Seal promise.
* Recipes courtesy Lucy Libido says ... There's an Oil for THAT available on Amazon

 

Her

Sweet  Thing
20 drops Ylang Ylang
20 drops Cypress
5 drops Lavender
25 drops carrier oil

Sensational
25 drops Sensation
10 drops Cypress
5 drops Jasmine
25 drops carrier oil

Juicy
20 drops Clary Sage
10 drops Cypress
10 drops Orange
25 drops carrier oil

Him

Tarzan Man
20 drops Hong Kuai
10 drops Goldenrod
10 drops Idaho Blue Spruce
5 drops Black Pepper
25 drops carrier oil

Mister Nice Guy
30 drops Mister
5 drops Idaho Blue Spruce
5 drops Cypress

Wake Up Call
20 drops Idaho Blue Spruce
10 drops Cypress
5 drops Rosemary
5 drops Nutmeg
25 drops carrier oil